Rejection in dating
Rejection, Not All Bad Dealing with rejection is never fun. You expressed an interest in someone, and they said 'No, thanks'. That early rejection saves you more grief later, when it turns out your fantasy doesn't match reality. But when that happens a few times, or from someone you really thought you had a connection to, it's worthwhile taking some time to try to understand why. There are often multiple reasons, some not so easy to ferret out. But just as physical pain, unpleasant as it is, has a healthy biological purpose, so rejection can be good. It's very easy to preach 'turn lemons into lemonade'. So, to make rejection anything other than a pain, it's necessary to give a recipe for making it a positive. 'Acceptance' means realizing that not everyone will be interested, even if you're interested in them.Does your love life feel like a broken record that keeps skipping the second date?Or maybe it doesn’t even get that far—you enjoy a nice email exchange and a couple phone calls but always wind up riding solo on the Lonesometown Express.Because our ancestors survived by being a part of a tribe, this need remains inside us and means that memories of rejection are stronger and more easily remembered than those of physical pain.
It seems that the feeling of rejection and the emotional pain it causes is enough to fog rational thinking and actually reduce a person’s IQ, especially when it comes to short-term memory tasks and particularly decision-making.It’s important to keep this in mind if you are ever going through a tough time – you have the right to feel this way.Our evolution and tribal nature has allowed our brains to develop strong signals to avoid the likelihood of rejection.'Explore' means trying to understand why the rejection occurred. Many times, you don't have much to go on - just a 'Not interested'.People who reject you rarely give a lot of reasons or facts to help you figure out why they acted as they did. Sometimes it's possible to do everything right, but do it in the wrong way.